Mar 7, 2015
Are You a Top or a Bottom?
Backsides have their allure. Glutes are pleasantly shapely, and hamstrings and calves have an appeal. Besides, you can ogle at them without the owner noticing.
And the face. Who wants to cruise the back of someone's head?
So I don't understand why:
1. Homophobes always equate gay with backsides. "I'm not homophobic, but the things you do are so disgusting!" they squeal. "How can you do that...that backside thing? Doesn't it make you sick?"
2. The first thing gay men ask is "Are you a top or a bottom?" (For backside activities).
3. Or in my case, because I'm on the tall side, they just assume. The moment we get to my apartment, they flop onto their stomachs.
4. Guys who are bottoms for backside activities are denigrated as unmanly. "He may act all masculine and butch, but he's really a little sissy! The moment you get into the bedroom, he flops onto his stomach!"
5. When a backside act is forced, it's a felony. Every other forced same-sex act is a misdemeanor, not nearly as serious in the eyes of the law.
6. After a night of very energetic erotic activity, guys say "Well, that was nice, but I want to go all the way with you! I want to have sex!" Anything not involving the backside is preliminary, "fooling around," not really sex at all.
It's due to the heterosexual assumption that sex must always involve a male penetrating a female. Whatever gay men do must follow that model, and since there's no vagina, they must substitute the backside (and the one who gets penetrated is like a woman, therefore despicable).
Sexist, homophobic nonsense. Sex involves many different activities. Your whole body can participate, not just one part.
Today only about half of gay men are interested in backside activity (50% are bottoms, 20% tops, and 30% versatile).
Oddly, only about half of older and a third of younger men use condoms.
See also: The night I lost my virginity.