Scholars have written a lot of nonsense on the incest taboo, why most cultures forbid marriage or sexual relations between close relatives.
They say it's to avoid birth defects and other genetic abnormalities, but in fact such things are not apparent for several generations.
More likely it is a matter of exogamy: bringing a new person into the community brings new ideas, new fashions, new technology -- vital for cultural growth.
Plus the daily dynamics of sharing a household with someone while you're growing up makes them too familiar to be erotic.
In the U.S., marriage or sexual relations are forbidden between biological siblings, parents and children, and aunts/uncles/nieces/nephews.
First cousins (your uncle or aunt's child) are usually forbidden, and sometimes first cousins once removed (your parents' cousins) and second cousins (your cousins' children).
Most states also prohibit adopted parents, children, and siblings, even though genetics are not an issue.
The rules have gotten more strict during the last century. In the Victorian Era, it was not uncommon to marry your uncle or your cousin.
Brothers
I don't know if erotic activity between brothers is more common than between brother and sister, but it certainly is less stigmatized.
A lot of guys characterize their same-sex activity as "play" or "fooling around," not real sex, especially in adolescence, so they have no qualms against doing things with their brother that they would never think of with their sister.
I never did anything with my own brother, but I've had two brothers cruise me at the same time.
Cousins
These sort of relationships are more common. You rarely see your cousins, so they don't develop th familiarity that would preclude erotic relationships.
And they're often quite different from you physically, adding a little exoticism to the mix.
One of my first erotic experiences was seeing my Cousin Joe naked and (in retrospect) semi-aroused. I was seven and a half, and he was a teenager. I've also had erotic experiences with my Cousin George and Cousin Buster.
Fathers and Sons/Grandfathers and Grandsons
When young guys call you Daddy, they're referring to the social distance of your age difference, not imagining sex with their real father.
Father-son erotic activity is much less common, and more stigmatized, than brother-brother, probably because the parental dynamic is so different. Nurturing and protecting you is not erotic. Why would you be attracted to someone who changed your diapers when you were a baby?
I've never had any erotic thoughts about my own father, or head about it in real life, although I thought long and hard about my Grandpa Prater.
Alan hooked up with a father and son at the same time, but they never actually interacted with each other.
Uncles and Nephews
Like cousins, you don't see them often, and they're grownup while you're a kid, so they have all of the muscles, hair, and bulges you associate with the erotic.
Growing up, I had erotic thoughts about several of my uncles, especially Uncle Edd and Uncle Paul. I've never had erotic thoughts about my nephew, who is now in his 20s, but there's still time. Life is very long.
Beefcake, gay subtexts, and queer representation in mass media from the 1950s to the present
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Sep 10, 2016
Sep 9, 2016
The Beefcake Art of Annibale Carracci
Annibale Carracci (1560-1609) was a painter of the Italian Baroque period who specialized in mythological and allegorical subjects, obviously preferring the male form to the female. He painted big, beefy, muscular nudes influenced by Raphael and Michelangelo.
Genio de la Gloria (1588-89), or "The Spirit of Glory," is a brightly-shining nude angel with a rather small penis getting ready to pass out laurels.
Bacchus (1590), the Greek god of wine, drunkenness, and general licentiousness, is usually portrayed as an elderly roue, but Carracci makes him a chubby adolescent.
The Choice of Hercules (1596) shows a naked, very handsome demigod trying to choose between two fully clothed women, representing Virtue (left) and Vice (right). There are more naked men on Virtue's side.
Diana and Endymion (1597) is part of a gigantic fresco called The Loves of the Gods, now in the Farnese Gallery in Rome. Endymion is semi-nude and surrounded by four nude men, while Diana, who put him to sleep so she have him all to herself, is minimized.
The same fresco contains Perseus and Phineas. A naked Perseus is using Medusa's head to turn a lot of naked men to stone.
And Polyphemus Furioso (Polyphemus Insane). I'll bet you've never seen the Cyclops who Odysseus outwits so buffed before.
Although his penis is still a bit inadequate.
Genio de la Gloria (1588-89), or "The Spirit of Glory," is a brightly-shining nude angel with a rather small penis getting ready to pass out laurels.
Bacchus (1590), the Greek god of wine, drunkenness, and general licentiousness, is usually portrayed as an elderly roue, but Carracci makes him a chubby adolescent.
The Choice of Hercules (1596) shows a naked, very handsome demigod trying to choose between two fully clothed women, representing Virtue (left) and Vice (right). There are more naked men on Virtue's side.
Diana and Endymion (1597) is part of a gigantic fresco called The Loves of the Gods, now in the Farnese Gallery in Rome. Endymion is semi-nude and surrounded by four nude men, while Diana, who put him to sleep so she have him all to herself, is minimized.
The same fresco contains Perseus and Phineas. A naked Perseus is using Medusa's head to turn a lot of naked men to stone.
And Polyphemus Furioso (Polyphemus Insane). I'll bet you've never seen the Cyclops who Odysseus outwits so buffed before.
Although his penis is still a bit inadequate.
Sep 8, 2016
Just Shoot Me: Buddy Bonding and Snark
Beginning with The Mary Tyler Moore Show, many, many sitcom have featured a gung-ho female journalist paired with a stick-in-the-mud male boss. Usually a romance develops. But not in Just Shoot Me (1997-2003).
Its premise: aging playboy Jack Gallo (George Segal) runs a women's magazine, Blush, which offers frothy fashion and sex tips. His daughter Maya (Laura San Giocomo) arrives, all but waving a "Women's Lib" sign, ready to fight the objectification of women and write hard-hitting articles about human trafficking and date rape.
She is shocked to discover that everyone at Blush is extraordinarily horny. Sexual desires, exploits, adventures, and come-ons occupy all of their free time, which is all of the workday.
Photographer Elliot DiMauro (Enrico Colantoni) sleeps with every female model, no exceptions.
Wise-cracking secretary Davis Finch (David Spade) makes crude come-ons to every women in sight, no exceptions.
Fashion editor and former supermodel Nina Van Horn (Wendie Malick) sleeps with every man she sees, no exceptions.
There are episodes about the clash between hard-hitting journalism and froth, but mostly the series is about relationships. Maya bickers with her Dad, clashes with his new wife, and gets boyfriends, eventually Elliot.
Nina competes with other supermodels, falls in love with the wrong man, pretends to be things that she's not, and gets her comeuppance.
Davis pursues a father-son relationship with Jack, pursues a relationship with his real father, and has the insecurities beneath the snark revealed.
They all become close friends.
There was some gay interest:
Nina Van Horn was an outrageous, boozy, profane type, the sort gay men like to emulate in their drag queen personae.
Everyone is shocked to discover that Davis is an extra-extra large (he didn't know himself, assuming that the guys in porn movies were about average, and he was just a little bigger than them).
Enrico Colantoni, hairy and rather muscular, took off his shirt often (he even posed semi-nude for Playgirl).
Gay people were referenced on occasion, the usual "mistaken for gay" and "pretending to be gay to enjoy the tremendous advantages gay people have" episodes.
Only two actual LGBT persons: the high school buddy who had a sex change; and a female model has a crush on Maya.
Typical for how the 1990s handled gay "issues," as a problem for the heterosexuals to solve.
You'd think they could do better, and have an actual gay character in a recurring role. But it came on just before or just after Will and Grace, and network execs probably figured that viewers couldn't stand two programs with gay characters on the same night.
See also: Suddenly, Susan
Its premise: aging playboy Jack Gallo (George Segal) runs a women's magazine, Blush, which offers frothy fashion and sex tips. His daughter Maya (Laura San Giocomo) arrives, all but waving a "Women's Lib" sign, ready to fight the objectification of women and write hard-hitting articles about human trafficking and date rape.
She is shocked to discover that everyone at Blush is extraordinarily horny. Sexual desires, exploits, adventures, and come-ons occupy all of their free time, which is all of the workday.
Photographer Elliot DiMauro (Enrico Colantoni) sleeps with every female model, no exceptions.
Wise-cracking secretary Davis Finch (David Spade) makes crude come-ons to every women in sight, no exceptions.
Fashion editor and former supermodel Nina Van Horn (Wendie Malick) sleeps with every man she sees, no exceptions.
There are episodes about the clash between hard-hitting journalism and froth, but mostly the series is about relationships. Maya bickers with her Dad, clashes with his new wife, and gets boyfriends, eventually Elliot.
Nina competes with other supermodels, falls in love with the wrong man, pretends to be things that she's not, and gets her comeuppance.
Davis pursues a father-son relationship with Jack, pursues a relationship with his real father, and has the insecurities beneath the snark revealed.
They all become close friends.
There was some gay interest:
Nina Van Horn was an outrageous, boozy, profane type, the sort gay men like to emulate in their drag queen personae.
Everyone is shocked to discover that Davis is an extra-extra large (he didn't know himself, assuming that the guys in porn movies were about average, and he was just a little bigger than them).
Enrico Colantoni, hairy and rather muscular, took off his shirt often (he even posed semi-nude for Playgirl).
Gay people were referenced on occasion, the usual "mistaken for gay" and "pretending to be gay to enjoy the tremendous advantages gay people have" episodes.
Only two actual LGBT persons: the high school buddy who had a sex change; and a female model has a crush on Maya.
Typical for how the 1990s handled gay "issues," as a problem for the heterosexuals to solve.
You'd think they could do better, and have an actual gay character in a recurring role. But it came on just before or just after Will and Grace, and network execs probably figured that viewers couldn't stand two programs with gay characters on the same night.
See also: Suddenly, Susan
Sep 6, 2016
Hugh O'Brian and the Gay 1950s
Hugh O'Brian, who died yesterday, was one of the few beefcake actors of the 1950s not discovered by gaydar-proficient talent agent Henry Willson -- although he was rumored to be gay. He just wanted to be discovered for his talent, not for his biceps and bulge. A high school athlete and former Marine, he began acting in 1948, and appeared in a steady stream of B-actioners, mostly cowboy and war flicks, through the 1950s.
In 1955 Huge got his big break, playing legendary Wild West marshall and sharpshooter Wyatt Earp, who participated in the famous Gunfight at the OK Corral (1881), along with his brothers and his close friend Doc Holliday.
A 1931 biography, Wyatt Earp: Frontier Marshall, omitted the gambling, prostitution, and shady business deals, transforming him into a heroic character who brought "law and order" to the Old West. Movie versions of his life appeared in 1934, 1939, 1946, and 1957.
The tv series, The Life and Legend of Wyatt Earp (1955-61) whitewashed the character even farther, but didn't skip on the gay subtexts. Earp isn't married, and falls in love no more than once per season.
He lives in a masculine-coded world of brawlers and gunfighters, renegade Indians and gun-shy dudes. He has many friends, Doc Holliday, Deputy Hal Norton, Bat Masterson, Marsh Murdock, and his brothers, but never settles down to any long-term relationship.
After Wyatt Earp, the typecast Hugh performed as any number of heterosexual cowboys, detectives, and do-gooders. but he managed to draw in a gay subtext occasion.
In Love Has Many Faces (1965), he plays a male prostitute (coded as a "beach boy") out for revenge against his former pimp who has gone "straight" (Cliff Robertson).
In Africa: Texas Style (1967), cowboy Jim Sinclair (Hugh) and his Indian sidekick John Henry (Tom Nardini) go to Africa, where they buddy-bond and encounter scalawags. They don't get girlfriends, but they do adopt a young native boy, Sampson (John Malinda). (It was adapted into a tv series starring Chuck Connors.)
Huge reprised the Wyatt Earp character several times, most recently in Wyatt Earp: Return to Tombstone (1994).
He married for the first time in 2006, at the age of 81, but according to close friend Debbie Reynolds, he was straight. He just wasn't ready to settle down yet.
If he was straight, why were all of his friends gay? Well, she says, there simply weren't a lot of straight beefcake actors in 1950s Hollywood, so you had to be gay-friendly if you wanted friends.
In 1955 Huge got his big break, playing legendary Wild West marshall and sharpshooter Wyatt Earp, who participated in the famous Gunfight at the OK Corral (1881), along with his brothers and his close friend Doc Holliday.
A 1931 biography, Wyatt Earp: Frontier Marshall, omitted the gambling, prostitution, and shady business deals, transforming him into a heroic character who brought "law and order" to the Old West. Movie versions of his life appeared in 1934, 1939, 1946, and 1957.
The tv series, The Life and Legend of Wyatt Earp (1955-61) whitewashed the character even farther, but didn't skip on the gay subtexts. Earp isn't married, and falls in love no more than once per season.
He lives in a masculine-coded world of brawlers and gunfighters, renegade Indians and gun-shy dudes. He has many friends, Doc Holliday, Deputy Hal Norton, Bat Masterson, Marsh Murdock, and his brothers, but never settles down to any long-term relationship.
After Wyatt Earp, the typecast Hugh performed as any number of heterosexual cowboys, detectives, and do-gooders. but he managed to draw in a gay subtext occasion.
In Love Has Many Faces (1965), he plays a male prostitute (coded as a "beach boy") out for revenge against his former pimp who has gone "straight" (Cliff Robertson).
In Africa: Texas Style (1967), cowboy Jim Sinclair (Hugh) and his Indian sidekick John Henry (Tom Nardini) go to Africa, where they buddy-bond and encounter scalawags. They don't get girlfriends, but they do adopt a young native boy, Sampson (John Malinda). (It was adapted into a tv series starring Chuck Connors.)
Huge reprised the Wyatt Earp character several times, most recently in Wyatt Earp: Return to Tombstone (1994).
He married for the first time in 2006, at the age of 81, but according to close friend Debbie Reynolds, he was straight. He just wasn't ready to settle down yet.
If he was straight, why were all of his friends gay? Well, she says, there simply weren't a lot of straight beefcake actors in 1950s Hollywood, so you had to be gay-friendly if you wanted friends.