Jan 11, 2017

David's First Sexual Experience, at a Gas Station in Arkansas

Of all the hundreds of coming out stories I've heard, David's is the most remarkable.  A conservative Baptist minister in small-town Arkansas, married with children, figuring it out on his 43rd birthday, with not a hint before!

Fort Smith

Dave was born on January 6th, 1953 (Three Kings' Day) in Memphis, Tennessee.  When he was five years old, his family moved to Fort Smith, Arkansas.  He had an idyllic childhood, swimming in Creekmore Park, buying comic books at Coleman Drugs, having sleepovers with his friends from Sunnymead Elementary School..

"Sleepovers?  Lots of opportunities for seeing guys in their underwear, cuddling with them, maybe some groping?"

"Not that I remember."

In high school he started dating girls, but prided himself on treating them "like a gentleman," rejecting even a good-night kiss.  He often double-dated with his best friend, Steve.

"I'll bet you couldn't wait to drop the girls off so you and Steve could..."

"Not that I remember."


Fayetteville

At the University of Arkansas in Fayetteville from 1971 to 1975, Dave majored in Classical Studies and became competent in Latin, Greek, and German.  He first became aware of same-sex desire when he translated Virgil's Eclogue 2:

Corydon the Shepherd was in love with beautiful Alexis.

How could Corydon be in love with Alexis, when they were both boys?

The professor explained that the ancient Romans sometimes practiced "the unnatural vice."

"A little frisson of recognition?"  I ask. 


"Nope.  I don't remember feeling any strong emotion about it.  It was just something weird that the ancients did."

The rest of the story is too explicit for Boomer Beefcake and Bonding.  You can read it on Tales of West Hollywood.

2 comments:

  1. No way you can be that clueless. You may not understand what you're feeling or why but you know how you feel and that it is not normal. I myself figured at some point "normal" feelings would kick in. Eventually learned there were others like me and that it had a name. Took longer to accept and realize what's normal for some isn't necessarily normal for others. But I always knew I was attracted to men never women. Been out since the age of 17. (52 now) Yet to meet anyone who didn't know at an early age.

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    1. I figured it out until I was 17, and I thought that was pretty late. I'm not sure if David was really clueless, or whether he was trying to emphasize it to make his transformation more dramatic.

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