I found Peter Koch, a forgotten muscleman of the 1980s.
Born in 1962, he played professional football for five seasons while doing modeling and some acting. His first tv role was "Harry the Bodyguard" on a 1986 episode of Dallas.
He showed some chest as Swede Johanson in the war movie Hearbreak Ridge (1986)
Why do musclemen never get to be romantic leads? If they're not rescuing POWs from behind enemy lines, they're grunting and flexing to threaten the lead -- here Peter's character roughs up Patrick Dempsey in Loverboy (1988).
It's as if Hollywood thinks of muscles and by definition violent rather than sexy.
He was very busy in the 1990s, playing football players, cops, bodyguards, soldiers, and miscellaneous hunks. No starring roles, but he played himself in the thriller Sweet Evil (1996), and he had a substantial part as the Fire Captain in Conspiracy Theory (1997), starring Mel Gibson.
Not a lot of roles in the 2000s, but he kept busy as a fitness trainer.
My gaydar was triggered until I read more: it's not the boyfriend, it's Toby Maguire.
And Pete's Facebook likes: Brett Easton Ellis, George W. Bush, and Mike Pence.
Ok, not gay, not gay friendly, but still a hunk.