NYSocBoy's Beefcake and Bonding: Joe Gaydar breaks unwritten gym rules, some involving penises and bondage

When Tony Cavalero was staying in Chicago, he got a hotel gym boyfriend, Joe Gaydar. Not his real name -- I don't post the real names of non-actors , if there's nudity involved - but close. I imagine that the guy got a lot of homophobic bullying in grade school.

Joe works as a corporate health specialist, "Empowering Your Employees for Optimal Wellness and Unprecedented Success!" The all capped first letters was his idea, not mine.

But his main claim to fame is an entertaining Instagram, filled with humorous POVs:

"Old lifters vs. new lifters"

"Things we all do at the gym"

"When that guy at the gym keeps staring at you"

"When you see Hugh Jackman, aka Huge Jacked Man, looking like a chiseled Greek god."

"When you've already gone to the gym, and the day's main mission is accomplished."

And my favorite, "Breaking unwritten gym rules."

1. "I don't have to wipe down the equipment or put the weights away. Someone else will do that for me." I hate walking up to a machine and seeing someone's sweat or that disgusting disinfectant slime on it.

2. "Grabbed two different brand dumbbells. It's the same weight, right?" Definitely a violation of an unwritten rule.

3. "Even though it's peak hours, I'm gonna use multiple machines, because my workout is more important than yours." That's just being a jerk

4. "Let's load the plate with the logo facing in!" Absolutely unthinkable.

5. "I got a 45 and a 45. One's iron and one's rubber. Same difference, right?" Again, unthinkable.

6. "Looks like somebody left their stuff here. They can't be trying to reserve the machine, so let's move it." Wait -- you can't reserve a machine, unless you're standing right next to it. The guy who left his stuff there is the jerk.

7. "13 reps. It's ok to end a set on an odd number, right?" In all my years of going to the gym, I have never ended a set on an odd number. It just seems wrong.

8."All done with my set, so I'll sit here on my phone for 15 minutes." Sometimes I walk up to them and say "If you're just resting, can I squeeze in a set?", and they stare like I just grew a second head.

9. "I've got a big dick, so I don't need to use a towel in the locker room. Guys should be happy to get a peek." Not a problem, buddy: show your dick all you want.

More rules and a dick after the break.

10. "The order of the weights doesn't matter, so I can put the light ones on the bar first, right?" Looks weird, dude.

11. "I can't find another 45, so let's put a 25 and two 10s on this side. Same thing, right?" I've done that, but it's embarrassing. I feel like everyone is staring.

12. "Look, the squat rack is unoccupied. I can use it for bicep curls, right?" Wrong.

13. "He invited me home, so he must want me to continue flexing." That's one of mine: don't you hate it when you bring a bodybuilder or gym rat home, and they want to pose before bed?