1. Repeatedly following or contacting a person with the intent of harassing or intimidating.
2. Using social media to check on your ex-lovers and other people who don't want anything to do with you.
3. Using social media to find out about people you don't know or barely know.
#1 is a crime, #2 is pathetic, but what's wrong with #3? Why can't I use social media to find out what I can about a person I've just met? It allows me to determine what we have in common to enhance the relationship.
And what's wrong with learning about people you don't know? You can use the information to decide whether to pursue a relationship.
Besides, they post photos.
Isn't it nice to know that the guy who takes your order at the gay-friendly coffee house has a chest like this?
You can't date your students, but it certainly makes class more interesting to know what he has under his shirt.
There's no rule saying that you can't date your student's friends.
If you're interested in the guy who lives in the apartment down the hall, this photo might encourage you to ask him out.
More after the break
This photo might save you from an embarrassing "Sorry, I'm straight."
Unless it's his sister. You can check.
Social media isn't entirely reliable. Some guys have no visible same-sex interests on the site, dozens of pics of them with girls, and still turn out to be gay.
Others are all about gay pride, trans pride, LGBT organizations, and male bonding, and turn out to be straight allies.
In the end, you still have to rely on good old fashioned face-to-face cruising.
One odd discovery on social media has been how many in-between guys like me are out there. Go on PornHub, find some jack off video, and there are a lot of otherwise straight guys who like it.
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