Mar 30, 2017
Like all teen idols, his fan base aged with him, so by the late 1950s, his songs had become "old favorites," the songs middle-aged couples danced to while they reminisced about when they first met: "My Blue Heaven" (1961), "I Love Paris" (1962), "It Was a Very Good Year" (1965)
He was also in Las Vegas, singing, boozing, and clowning around with the fabled Rat Pack: Sammy Davis Jr., Dean Martin, Peter Lawford, Joey Bishop.
He continued to perform though the 1980s, although more and more often as a relic of the past, an American institution whose work was revered rather than enjoyed. His last studio album, released in 1994, included "Come Fly with Me," "The Best is Yet to Come," "Embraceable You," and "My Funny Valentine." One imagines that the elderly couples who first danced to his songs as teenagers fifty years before were sitting on rocking chairs, reminiscing.
The gay connection: Frank was quite homophobic in real life, but he had strong emotional ties with the mostly-bisexual Rat Pack, he starred in many gay-subtext movies, like On the Town, and his daughter Nancy Sinatra is a gay ally. She tweets: "Tell me if you are homophobic and I will unfollow you. Don't like bigots."
See also: The Gay Rat Pack; On the Town
Mar 29, 2017
He starred in several short-lived tv series, such as Flatbush (1979), Today's FBI (1981-82), Santa Barbara (1989-90).
But there's more to Joseph Cali than meets the eye: a lot of nude photos online.
But it's nice to know that he displayed his physique, and more, for gay fans in the past.
The nude photos are on Tales of West Hollywood
Mar 28, 2017
But occasionally I've dated an introvert: quiet, shy, doesn't like meeting new people, likes to stay home in the evenings.
Dating an introvert has some has some intense pleasures, but it's very different from dating an extrovert. You have to be careful -- it's easy to misunderstand his intentions.
Here are 10 things you should know:
1. Cruising. Meeting new people is always intimidating for him, so even if you're a twink magnet, he won't make the first contact. He'll wait for you to approach him.
2. The Initial Interview. Those small-talk exchanges of "How are you? Fine -- how are you? Fine" make no sense to him. He prefers to ask and answer real questions.
3. Getting Coffee. He doesn't understand why people hang out in coffee houses, gay-friendly or not. There's coffee at home. (Which is your excuse to get him home).
4. The Date. Bright lights, noise, and crowds are not fun, they're exhausting. They can deal with them for short periods, but they will need occasional breaks to go somewhere quiet and recharge. Take him somewhere nice and quiet, like a play, or a museum.
6. The Kiss. Touching someone is always intimate, so he does it only if he has a strong emotional or erotic connection. He dislikes casual touching by strangers, like shaking hands. Lay off the groping until the end of the date.
But once he's ok with touching, he won't stop. You might never make it out of the bedroom.
8. The Duck Around. If he sees you on the street or in the hallway, he might duck around the corner to avoid contact. He's not trying to be rude; it's just that seeing someone outside of a familiar context is very stressful. What should I do? What should I say?
10. The Intensity. Be prepared for nights of quiet intensity, where every statement is meaningful and every touch is passionate. In the morning you will be physically and emotionally exhausted, but anxious to see him again.
The X-rated version of this list, with nude photos and sexual content, is on Tales of West Hollywood.
See also: 15 Simple Rules of Gay Dating.
Mar 26, 2017
Remember, a traveler was accosted by thieves, who robbed him, stripped him naked, and left him by the side of the road. A Pharisee and a Priest passed by without helping, but a Samaritan took him home and cared for his wounds.
The poit is not that we should help people in distress. Samaritans were looked down on as heretics, evil, unclean, degenerate. not really human at all. Jesus was telling us that we shouldn't pre-judged people. Some of the seemingly righteous Pharisees and Priests are actually morally bankrupt, and there are some good Samaritans.
Regardless of the point Jesus was trying to make, artists have embraced the story as a way show a naked man and still be seen as devout.
Like William Etty (top picture), the first significant painter of male nudes in modern Britain, whose 1838 version takes a dig at Islamophobia, making the Samaritan a modern Turk.
Cornelius Van Haarlem (1627) makes the victim completely nude (but censors the penis), and the Samaritan a contemporary Dutch burger.
You can also use the Samaritan story as an excuse to show homoerotic potential, a man cradling another man in his arms. This version is by Leon Bonnat (1833-1922).
And George Frederick Watts (1817-1904), with an older but still muscular victim and a black Samaritan.
More after the break.
Here is the list of the biggest offenders, excluding historical artifacts like Cruising and The Boys in the Band, and movies where the gay guy dies (which I never see in the first place).
1. Get Real (1998). The only gay guy in the world (Ben Silverstone), who plasters his room with pictures of hunky footballers but still worries that his parents will "find out," falls for a local jock, who won't acknowledge his presence in public, continues to date girls, and beats him up to prove he is heterosexual. But there are no other options.
2. Sordid Lives (1999). In "modern" Texas, a drag queen named Brother Boy (Leslie Jordan) is in a mental hospital, undergoing de-homosexual therapy. Meanwhile, a gay man (Kirk Geiger) moves from Texas to Los Angeles, where he undergoes 300 years of therapy to accept "who he is," but is still terrified that his theater-crowd friends will "find out." Are you kidding me? (Southern Baptist Sissies is in the same vein).
Joshua Jackson, not even the most homophobic of the Jacksons) helps them blackmail his sex partner, a closeted footballer, who tries to turn hetero by throwing out his Judy Garland cds. Excuse me? Who researched this movie?
Gay Men Really Want Women
4. The Object of My Affection (1998). Straight woman (Jennifer Anniston) and gay man (Paul Rudd) fall in love and begin a relationship. Um. . .what exactly did they think the word "gay" meant?
5. The Opposite of Sex (1998). Teenage girl (Christina Ricci) shows up at her gay brother's house and seduces his lover (Ivan Sergei), who never once states that he's bisexual. He just likes women, like all gay men.
Gay Men are Really Women
7. The Birdcage (1996). It may have been ok with La Cage aux Folles in 1978, but in 1996, the sight of one effeminate stereotype (Robin Williams) teaching another (Nathan Lane) how to butter his toast "like a man" was infuriating.
8. Hedwig and the Angry Inch (2001). East German boy (John Cameron Mitchell) falls in love with an American GI, and decides to become a woman for him. Operation is botched, creating a transwoman with an "angry inch," who becomes a punk rocker and falls in love with a homophobic Bible-belt boy. Same-sex desire doesn't exist; it's all male-female, regardless of the body you inhabit.
9. Chasing Amy (1997). Hetero man (Ben Affleck) falls in love with a lesbian and begins the task of converting her to heterosexuality. Isn't that a debunked myth -- lesbians will "turn back" if they meet the right man? It works, albeit temporarily.
10. Kissing Jessica Stein (2001). Jessica meets a lesbian. She's astounded, utterly unaware that such things exist. In Manhattan. In 2001. To be fair, she lives in a gay-free Manhattan, where people constantly make heterosexist statements ("Oh, you got flowers! Who's the guy?"). They begin a relationship, but then Jessica switches back to heterosexual again.
Gay as Arrested Development
11. Chuck and Buck (2000). The worst gay-themed movie since Cruising. I'll save it for another post.
See also: 10 Gay Movies I Loved; 12 Songs I Hate; and The 39 Dumbest Things on TV