Everybody Hates Chris

Everybody Hates Chris (2005-09),  loosely based on the childhood of comedian Chris Rock in the 1980s, was about a boy named Chris (Tyler James Williams) beset-upon by weird neighbors and a crazy family.  School is even worse; as the only black student at Corleone Junior High, he suffers both overt and well-meaning liberal racism.

True to the tradition of erasing black beefcake, no one disrobed on camera.  But there were nearly as many bulges as on The Jeffersons, and you could easily find shirtless and nude shots elsewhere.

Tequan Richmond, who played Chris's opposite, his supremely lucky and supernaturally attractive brother, posted many muscle pix on his website.  He now plays a teen hunk on General Hospital.

Terry Crews, the Dad, is a former football star with a bodybuilder's physique who often flexes in his movies (most recently he has done voice work on The Ultimate Spider_Man).

The word "gay" was never spoken, though once they used "androgynous" as a euphemism.  And, at least in the first season, Chris featured one of the strongest teenage homoromantic subtexts in contemporary tv.

When Chris arrives at Corleone Junior High, the only kid who will befriend him is the nerd Greg (Vincent Martella, now voicing the Disney Channel's Phineas and Ferb).  Soon they become inseparable  -- and exclusive; when one courts another boy, the other seethes with jealousy. They break up, realize how much they care for each other, and reconcile again.

They have a Romeo-and-Juliet moment in “Everybody Hates Greg” (November 24, 2005): Greg’s father forbids him from seeing Chris, and the two go through absurd machinations to be together, behaving according to media conventions for heterosexual participants in a “forbidden romance.”  Finally Greg’s father relents, saying “You’re big buddies, huh?”, apparently recognizing that the emotional importance of their bond transcends that of ordinary “buddies.”

The adult Chris Rock, who narrates each episode, seems somewhat discomfited by the intensity of the pairing.  Some of his asides, such as “Hey, this ain’t Brokeback!” (referring to the gay-themed movie Brokeback Mountain) deny that the pairing is romantic while explicitly linking it with gay romance.

Other asides, such as “How could I have so much drama without a girl?” appear to proclaim that the relationship is invalid because it does not involve girls, but actually indicates that girls are not necessary, that “drama” (emotional turmoil) is equally possible in same-sex relationships. The attention paid to the homoromance, and its thematic association with heterosexual romance, suggests that it is significant, even intentional.

However, it is temporary; after the first season, the two become ordinary best friends, both are wild about girls.

Wreck: Gay and Lesbian Teens Investigate a Cruise Ship Mystery. And a Killer Duck.

 I've never understood cruises: three weeks trapped in a floating shopping mall, with brief stops in the most tourist-trappy parts of tropical islands?  Why not just fly to the islands, so you can spend more time in the museums and bath houses?  

Hulu's six-episode Wreck sounds dreadful: the plot icon displays two boy-girl couples, and the plot synopsis tells us about Jamie (Oscar Kennedy) and his Love Interest investigating dark secrets on a cruise ship. But Episode 5 is entitled "Needle in a Gay Stack," so there must be gay characters around somewhere.  Maybe Jamie himself, shown here about to kiss or beat up costar Jack Rowan.  I reviewed the first episode.

Scene 1: A girl's butt swimming underwater.  She puts on a towel, stares in disgust at herself in the mirror, and then argues with stalking "I can't live without you!" ex-boyfriend Danny (Jack Rowan).

Scene 2: Fielding Danny's hysterical texts, the girl walks through a gigantic shopping mall and through some corridors.  Suddenly a knife-wielding person in a duck costume starts chasing her. Wait -- is this a comedy?  Surprise -- we're on a gigantic cruise ship -- I count at least ten decks.  After running and hiding for a long time, she yells "You can't have me!" and jumps overboard!  

Scene 3: Three months later, the ship is docked. New "recruit" Cormac (Oscar -- wait, I thought he was Jamie) signs his contract and then joins the others for an informational video: girls in bikinis telling us "Welcome to Velorum, where your dreams set sail."  

Their supervisors are introduced: Staff Captain Karen, Second Officer Beaker, Third Officer Sam Rhodes (Louis Boyer), who gets gazed at by some girls.  By the way, the ship symbol is a duck carrying a surf board. 

Grand tour: apparently there are 2,000 employees?  Crew mess hall, Little Ducks Soft Play Palace, theater, officer's mess hall, gym. promenade.  Everything is horribly regimented and authoritarian.  This is definitely not your grandpa's Love Boat.

Cormac couples-up with Love Interest Vivian,  Two other recruits couple up: Jerome (Diego Andres) and Lauren.

The entertainment crew, five girls and a boy, snob past in slow motion.  Everyone gawks.  Staff Captain Karen says that they're busy rehearsing "Apocalypse Wow. Wow Wow."  Ok, so it's a comedy.  You'd never know that from the somber, deadly-serious plot synopsis.  

Asked if he's dating anyone, Cormac says "No.  Sheffield's gay scene isn't exactly flourishing."  A gay protagonist, outed at Minute 10!  I'm in!

Scene 4:  While the entertainment crew hula-dances and sings "If you like pina coladas," the passengers board.  Mostly elderly male-female couples.  Cormac returns to his room, sees the ghost of his dead sister, and is shocked to see the real Cormac (Peter Claffey)! OMG, practically perfect in every way. Why couldn't it have been Peter Claffey playing the brother?

Plot dump: Jamie paid Cormac to take his place on board to investigate his sister's disappearance (couldn't he have just applied?).  But then the real Cormac's girlfriend dumped him, so he came onto the ship to spy on her.  "Ok,  just don't leave the cabin."  They're going to share that tiny twin bed?

Scene 5: Jamie goes to work in the kitchen, and asks around.  Nobody knew his sister (crew of 2,000, remember?).  Her boyfriend Danny was the worst, one of the entertainment snobs.  They all use drugs.  So on the ship the Drama Club kids are on top of the pyramid?

Scene 6: While Jamie is screaming in frustration (after just an hour of sleuthing? amateur!), a cute red-shirt approaches to commiserate (I think Oily, played by "Filipino queen" Anthony Rickman): a gay Love Interest!.  "Bail now, or you'll never escape.  I came aboard during my Gap Year -- 84 years ago. (Just kidding)"  Darn, I would like some paranormal, other than murderous Ducks.  He also advises Jamie to ditch the blue shirt while off duty or he'll get bullied.  

Meanwhile, in the kitchen, bff Vivian is being hit on: "I've never been with an Asian girl."  "I have," she responds.  So Vivian is gay, too!  I'm liking this show a lot more than the super-closeted plot synopsis suggested.  Jamie interrupts, and they bond over discussions of their horrible families: homophobic (Vivian), dead Mom and drunk dad (Jamie).

Scene 7: Hiding in the stock room, Jamie overhears sister's boyfriend Danny exchanging drugs for a mysterious portfolio.  Later, he sneaks into Danny's room while he's out and finds a mysterious cell phone hidden under his mattress. When Danny returns, he has to hide in the bathroom while the hunk flexes in the mirror (poor guy!).  A girl comes in and complains that another crew member is "freaking out: go talk to her."  

Scene 8: Whoops, a scene not from Jamie's point of view.  Sophia, the girl from Scene 7,  talks the girl who wants to leave: "We're in way over our heads, and after what happened to Pippa (the sister)..."  Where do you go on a cruise ship?  A life boat?   Then Danny the Hunk appears, all ripped and threatening (I guess it's supposed to be threatening.  I'd call it sexy). 

Scene 9:  Jamie sleuths and complains with Vivian, then returns to his room, where Cormac (the guy he replaced) is lying on the bed, shirtless (sigh), in his underwear (double sigh), eating crisps. 

They discuss Danny the Hunk. then Real Cormac's cabin fever, then Rosie, the girl he came on board to stalk. Plot dump: she's trans, and works as a Cher impersonator.  This is the gayest cruise ever.  Meanwhile Real Cormac flexes, shoves his hand into his underwear, and... Ok, now it's the gayest cruise ever.

Scene 9: Jamie and BFF Vivian in his cabin, talking: when Pippa went missing, the Panamanian police had to handle it, and they sent a detective for like one day.  The company's official statement: she committed suicide by jumping overboard.  Suddenly three people in duck masks break down the door and grab them!

Scene 10:  They -- Danny and his mate Hamish -- strip Jamie to his underwear, tie him up, and make him kiss a fish!  Surprise -- it's just a newbie hazing ritual.  He's released into a party, with people dancing and chugging. (Jerome from Scene 3 is displaying a nice underwear bulge).  Jamie (as Cormac) buddies up to Danny and asks about Pipa: "We weren't together long.  I dumped her." 

Eventually everyone hooks up: Danny with the girl who wanted to leave, Third Officer Rhoades with Sophia.  Jamie gets cruised by Oily.

Scene 11: After sex, Danny is lying on his bunk when someone in a duck costume enters.  He thinks it's his mate Hamish, and starts to tell a dirty joke.  Then the Duck assaults him with a dumbbell!  He staggers out into the hallway and yells for help, but no one hears.  The Duck stabs him with a knife, then drags him into a secret passage.  The end.

Beefcake: Lots.  And bulges.

Heterosexism:  At least two hetero-sex scenes, no gay sex scenes.

Gay Characters: Jamie, Oily, and Vivian, for starters.  

Mysteries: If Danny is one of the elites in the secret society, why did Duck Man kill him?  Is the killer plot separate?

My Grade: A-

"The Consultant": Tawdry, Tasteless Homophobia at a Modern Gaming Company

 Amazon Prime has been pushing The Consultant, an adaption of a novel about a consultant who turns out to be the Devil.  I knew that bosses are all evil, but not that evil.... So I watched the first episode.

Scene 1: Six kids from Glendale Middle School are taking a tour of one of those gaming companies where employees sit on stools and play foosball.  Guide Elaine stops to flirt with Craig (Nat Wolff, left), one of the coders,  then gives them the back story: Sang (Brian Yoon, below) coded his first game at age 13, and now has over 100, including all of the super-popular favorites.  He's worth uncountrable billions of dollars.  She ushers them into his office, then stops by to flirt with the coder again.  They discuss how much they hate Sang. 

Suddenly gunshots ring out!  The employees, looking bored, duck under their desks -- this is America, there are .  Guide Elaine and Coder Craig der rush into Sang's office.  One of the kids, Tokyo (Henry Rhoades) shot him!  "I want my Mommy," he says. 

Scene 2: Late at night, Coder Craig lies awake next to his sleeping girlfriend or wife, horrified by the tragedy.  He tries playing a video game about killing people, but that doesn't help, so he reads a news story about the murder: "The Devil made him do it," then goes for a run. Through Los Angeles at 2:00 am?  Is he crazy?  

Scene 3: He jogs through the deserted streets to the office to get some weed (he keeps marijuana at the office, but not at home?).  It's deserted except for Elaine, who is removing video cameras from the smoke detectors.  She explains that Sang was paranoid, and had them installed everywhere. They discuss the jobs they are going to get, now that Sang's company has closed.

Plot dump: Craig's girlfriend/wife is a fundamentalist, and thinks he should repent of his sins.  He wonders: If the Devil really did make the kid kill the boss, are the company employees evil, too?  Wait -- the Devil would want a good person killed, so his employees would be the good guys, right?  

Elaine shuts him down: millions of people play video games, and don't shoot anyone. There's no evidence that pretend violence causes real-life violence.

They hear a noise, and rush to the foyer: Regus (Christoph Waltz), a white haired man in an overcoat, carrying a briefcase, is just standing there, staring into space like a ghost.  He's here to see Sang.  At 2:00 am?  Then he corrects himself: "Oh, right, he's dead.  He killed those kids, then turned the gun on himself."  

They explain what really happened.  "Oh, right, that was the version I told myself." Creepy, dude. 

Apparently before he died, Sang hired Regus as a consultant "on all matters of business."   He also ordered this beautiful engraved Bible for you.

Unusual trait: Regus can walk ok, but he can't climb stairs.

He barges into Sang's office, shows them his contract, and calls a staff meeting for 9:00 am.  They protest, but the contract checks out.

Scene 4: Coder Craig in bed (muscle shirt), being sniffed by his fundamentalist wife.  She criticizes him for smoking weed. After a kiss, he rushes off to the office to join the grumbling employees.  I guess the kid killing Sang plotline has been dropped. 

Regus starts making crazy CEO demands, like no more working from home.  He sniffs everyone, and forces Iain (Michael Charles Vaccaro), the guy that he thinks smells bad,  to strip and wash right in his office (chest and butt shots).   He knows nothing about video games (except that they brainwash kids into becoming murderers, which Elaine disagrees with).  He is usuing an assumed name: Patoff comes from "Patent office." 

They check the security cam footage of Regus's appointment with Sang. No sound, but after 14 minutes, Sang signs the contract. Then he kneels and gives Regus a blow job.  "Was Sang...." Craig asks, another annoying example of "Don't say 'gay'"   No, he was asexual.  The end.

Beefcake: Naked chubby guy while he's being humiliated.  There's a full-sized, nude, well-hung statue of Sang later on.

Heterosexism: Craig and his fundamentalist wife, but they don't do much.

Gay Characters: Probably not, but gay sex signifies humiliation, degradation, and evil, which, combined with the refusal to use the G-word, becomes was homophobic.  Not to mention "cocksucker."

Violent Video Games Cause Violence:  Disproven over and over. There's no evidence that violent mass media consumption impacts real-life violence.

My Grade: F.

"Not Dead Yet": Obituary Writer Can See Dead People, and her Boss Has a Boyfriend: Two Impossible Things Before Breakfast

 

The premise of the new network comedy Not Dead Yet:  Newspaper reporter Nell longs to be a serious investigative journalist, but is forced to write obituaries instead.  Sounds like Just Shoot Me from the 1990s, except that there's no Wendie Malick around to say "Sorry I'm late" followed by an off-color anecdote: "Sorry I'm late. I told the guys I only had time for three of them."  

Also, in Not Dead Yet, the deceased hangs around while Nell is writing, offering advice and generally interfering with her life. 

Wait - a newspaper?  How old is the intended audience?  I'm rather on the old side, and I haven't read a newspaper in years.

There are two men in the main cast: Rick Glassman and Josh Banday.  Neither suggests much in the beefcake department, but Josh Banday is bi in real life, so maybe his character is bi, also.   Figuring that he would take a few episodes to come out, I reviewed Episode 3: "Not Out of High School Yet"

Scene 1: Nell and her BFF Sam (a girl) planning a wedding.  Geez, Sam has no boundaries: she puts her hand right in Nell's mouth!  A guy at a bar did that to me once; I freaked out.  

At work, extremely femme Dennis (Josh Banday) hands out her next obituary assigment: Piper, an influencer who died tragically trying to take a selfie on a cliff.  Nell knows her: she was a Mean Girl back in high school.  Piper's ghost immediately appears and passive-aggressively criticizes Nell's life: "I love your tiny little cubby-hole office."  Seething, Nell writes a short cursory obituary, and zap!  Piper's ghost is gone!

Scene 2: Dennis, Nell, and BFF Sam at lunch. Dennis: "I hate when Ben packs chick peas for my lunch!"  So he's open about a same-sex partner, but "Ben" does not appear in any of the first five episodes.

 They discuss how the office world is the same as high school, with its cliques: geeks, jocks (cut to Langston Kerman, top photo, showing everyone his biceps), nerds, teacher's pets, Cool Kids.  Suddenly the Big Boss Lexi appears and pulls Nell away.

Scene 3:  Big Boss Lexi tells Nell that the dead social influencer had 4 million followers, each of whom might buy a copy of the newspaper if they print a front-page obituary.  So write something lengthy and spectacular!  Piper's ghost immediately pops back from the afterlife to annoy Nell some more.

Out in the bullpen, they are playing office basketball (( think they use a Nerf ball.) The ball bounces to Dennis, and they ask him to make the basket.  He runs away in horror; in high school everyone laughed at his lack of sports prowess.  I can relate; I always said "I may be bad at this sport, but I'm really good at the one we'll be playing next spring (or next fall, or in the summertime when gym class is over)."  

Scene 4:  Influencer Piper's ghost is bragging to Nell about her various accomplishments.  Mom drops by; Nell complains, and she says "Mean Girls are mean because they're jealous of you."  That's certainly not it.  They are mean because they are evil.  I got tormented incessantly by Mean Girls at church.  Not at school, though.  I told the Youth Minister, but he wouldn't believe that I didn't want to date them.

Influencer Piper thinks that Nell is too uncool to write a respectable obituary. Flashback to her jeering at Nell during a school assembly in high school -- in 1999?  That would make Nell and Piper about 40.  Can 40 year olds become social influencers?  Do they even know what TikTok is?  I don't.  

Scene 5:  The other male character, Edward (Rick Glassman), at home with his girlfriend or wife.  He got tormented by Piper in high school, too, and falls back on the platitude: "She was just jealous."  His girlfriend/wife mocks him.  Sort of a Mean Girl yourself, aren't you, lady?  

Scene 6:  BFF Sam asks Dennis about the basketball thing: when he was a kid, some guys invited him to play basketball, but when he threw it, it bounced against his face, breaking his nose, and he fainted. She admits that she was a bully in high school, and offers to atone for her sins by helping him overcome his fear of basketball.

Meanwhile, Big Boss Lexi asks Nell how the obituary is coming: it has to be published soon after his death.  Remember on"Mary Tyler Moore," in the newsroom they wrote the obituaries of famous people in advance, so they'd be ready to go.  Mary writes a satirical obituary for the oldest man in Minneapolis, and then he dies, and Ted reads it on the air!  Sorry, this episode has me flashing back to high school.

Big Boss Lexi has given the obituary assignment to Mason the Intern (Jimmy Bellinger) also; whoever writes a better one will get the front page. 

Left: Jimmy nude in the movie Blockers (2018)

 Scene 7: Nell is at her mom's bar, Crickets, complaining that the obituary has now become a contest.  While Mom gives her heartfelt advice, Ghost Piper criticizes her: "You're just a sad, pathetic loser!  You peaked in high school!" 

Scene 8:  Piper's funeral, in a huge tent, with a catered lunch.  Piper is still criticizing Nell; Intern Mason joins in.  But Mom points out that none of Piper's followers showed up; no one is making a eulogy; the Mean Girl had no real friends.  

Meanwhile, BFF Sam teaches Dennis to play office basketball. "Put your hand in the same position as Mariah Carey doing a vocal run," she suggests.  And he makes the basket!  He's about as femme gay-stereotype as a character on "Will and Grace."  

Back at the funeral, Nell gives a eulogy: "We carry the negative voices from high school for the rest of our lives.  Some of us eventually face our fears (flash to Dennis)  Some of us are still trying to fit in with the cool kids (flash to Mason).  And some of us are trying to atone for who we used to be (flash to Sam)."  Realizing that she also had "cruel voices" in her head telling her that she wasn't good enough, Piper can finally go on to the afterlife.  This scene makes me tear up a bit. 

Scene 9: Big Boss Lexi examines the two obituaries, and chooses Nell's.  Mason is indignant.  Influencer Piper's ghost drops by on her way to the afterlife to tell Nell that her obituary was "nice."  

Scene 10:  Dennis, BFF Sam, and Nell at Mom's bar, celebrating.  The end.

Beefcake: None.  

Heterosexism: Other than the wedding in the first scene, which probably involves Sam and a guy, there are no references to heterosexual desire or romance.  Even Mason, who looks and acts like an all-around sleazebag, doesn't flirt with any women.

Gay Characters: Dennis is rather flamboyant, and he has a "Ben" at home.

The Secret: How did Nell acquire her ability to talk to dead people?  Do they have to tell her their story, in order to move on to the afterlife?   We don't learn anything about it; I guess we're not supposed to ask any questions.  

My Grade: B.

Head of the Class

Head of the Class (1986-1991) was Welcome Back, Kotter in reverse, about a class of mismatched overachievers, all brilliant, but with different personalities and academic interests.  Their mentor (not really a teacher, since they far surpassed him in knowledge of every subject) was Charlie Moore (Howard Hesseman, Dr. Johnny Fever on WKRP in Cincinnati).

Plots involved anxieties over their Harvard applications, competitions for prestigious awards, and trying to fit in with the cool kids, plus a memorable story arc set in the Soviet Union (the first American tv series ever filmed there).  No gay content, but not a lot of the hetero-horniness otherwise endemic among 1980s tv teens, plus some buddy-bonding, and several of the anti-slackers have moved on to gay-friendly projects.

1. Brian Robbins as Eric Mardian, the Vinnie Barbarino of the group, a surly leather-clad "bad boy" with a puppy-dog smile and an athlete's physique.  Unfortunately, he was also the most aggressively girl-crazy.   Brian has moved into production, and is responsible for some of the best gay-subtext teencoms on Nickelodeon, including Keenan and Kel and Supah Ninjas. 

2. Tony O'Dell as Alan Pinkard, a conservative Republican Michael J. Fox clone.  Not nearly as girl-crazy; most of his episodes focused on being competitive and snobbish, not on liking a girl.  Tony O'Dell had a long list of credits before Head of the Class, including Dynasty and Karate Kid.  Today he is an acting coach, and reputedly gay, thought I don't really see any confirmation on his social media. 

We need another photo of heartthrob Tony O'Dell.  This one emphasizes the tight jeans.

3.  Dan Frischman as Arvid Engen, a stereotypic bespectacled nerd.  He had some "crush on a girl" episodes, but mostly he buddy-bonded with fellow nerd, the portly Davis Blunden (Dan Schneider).  Today he is an actor, writer, and magician.  His first novel, Jackson and Jenks, is about two teenage boys who are best buddies and magicians.  (Dan Schneider, by the way, produces some more of the best gay-subtext teencoms on Nickelodeon, such as Drake and Josh and ICarly).

Whoops, My Dear: The Evolution of a Homophobic Slur

When you research the pop culture of the past, you occasionally come across a mystery.

In an Archie comic book story from the 1960s, Archie has to hold Veronica's purse.  Reggie see him, flashes a limp wrist, and says "Whoops, my dear!"  Obviously he is implying that Archie is gay, but how?

In a comic strip from the 1940s, Mickey Mouse decides to put up flowered wallpaper.  His friend then "accuses" him of being gay by dancing around and saying "Whoops, my dear!"

The homophobic slur appears on The Carol Burnett Show (1970s), in popular novels (1950s), and on the Burns and Allen radio program (1940s).   But what exactly does it mean, and how did it come to mean "I think that you are gay?"

The earliest use I have found is in a 1910 song by Bert F. Grant and Billy J. Morrisey:

Georgie was a dainty youth, well known for miles around.
Up on the street both night and day, he always could be found.
With his natty little cane and flaming crimson tie
When he'd come strolling down the lane, you'd loudly hear him cry, "Whoops, my dear."

He's a turn-of-the-century dandy, his cane and red tie symbolic of gayness, although in this song, he's courting women.

A Dictionary of Criminal Slang  (1913) lists it as a "jovial expression of fairies and theatrical characters"  Fairy, of course, was a derogatory term for a gay man.

An  undated "vintage" birthday card from about the same era has a little girl bouncing around, with the caption reading: "Whoops, my dear. Another year!"  Apparently not a homophobic slur.

In a 1915 story by Elinor Maxwell, we read that Mr. Clarkson Porter is "not much on hair, or a slim waistline, but when it comes to a bank account, whoops, my dear!"

Sounds like a mild expression of surprise.

"What Do We Care for Kaiser Bill", a World War I song (1917):
Now Percy left his home one day to join the flying corps
He said I'll make those horrid boys and girls feel very sore
The first time that they took him up, it made him feel so queer
When in the clouds they looped the loop, he yelled out "Whoops, my dear."

Percy (a gay-coded name of the era) yells out the phrase because he's feeling dizzy.  He's probably been turned gay ("queer").

In the 1920s, tourists to Paris could go to the Petite Chaumiere at 2 Rue Berthe, where the "men dressed as women...cavort around and swish their skirts and sing in falsetto and shout 'Whoops, my dear."



"I Wish't I was in Peoria" (Billy Rose and Mort Dixon, 1925), tells us
They're yelling "Whoops my dear" in Peoria tonight.
They've got a big red-blooded warrior, he wears a red tie in Peoria,
Oh, how I wish't I was in Peoria tonight.

The song is about how the "hick town" of Peoria, Illinois is far more sophisticated than Manhattan.  For instance, they have gay people there.  Red ties still signified gay identity.


In 1932, the Green Street Theater in San Francisco was playing "the continental spicy musical cocktail Whoops, My Dear.", aka Die Guckloch (peephole).  Mild expression of surprise at sexual shenanigans.

In the 1930s, a gay couple named Frankie and Johnny performed at the Ballyhoo Club on North Halsted in Chicago.  Among their numbers was:

Whoops, my dear, even the chief of police is queer.
When the sailors come to town, lots of brown
Holy by Jesus, everybody's got pareses in Fairytown

A mild expression of surprise at the existence of gay people.  I can't even guess what "lots of brown" means, but "pareses" is an inflammation of the brain that occurs in the late stages of syphillis.

In 1946, the Cocktail Guide and Ladies’ Companion by Crosby Gage, a theatrical producer and president of the New York Wine and Food Society, included such drinks as Euthanasia, Whoops My Dear, and Psychopathia Sexualis.

(Shown: Gage Crosby, no relation, a University of Arizona swimmer).

Lucille Ball sang the phrase in "Hey, Look Me Over" in Wildcat (1960), about an attempt to strike oil in Texas (top photo: her costar, Keith Andes):

We're hitting the road
Loud as a Shanta Clare but jittery as hen
The road to glory running a "whoops my dear,"
but here we go again. Yeah!

A "shanta clare" is a chicken.

She seems to mean that the Road to Glory is surprised to find her trying to strike oil again. 

In 1967, a Virginia newspaper was running a column with beauty tips.  The author disapproved of mini skirts unless you wear "mini-type  underpinnings," because otherwise, "Whoops, my dear!  Everything is showing."

 So by the 1960s, you could use the phrase to mean "I am surprised!" and "I think you are gay!"  

Both meaning vanished from popular use during the 1970s, but probably not due to gay activism, since slurs like "fag" and "homosexual" are still going strong.