Nov 28, 2018

That Girl: Will and Grace for the 1960s

Why did That Girl (1966-71) made my childhood list of tv programs “good beyond hope"? The tale of Ann Marie (Marlo Thomas), madcap wannabe actress on the loose in a bright, effervescent New York City, had  some beefcake -- hunky guest stars and Don Hollinger (Ted Bessell) in extra-revealing 1960s pants.  But there were no same-sex plotlines, no same-sex romances. It's about a boy and a girl.

But still, Marlo Thomas and Ted Bessell were both gay allies.  Ted previously costarred with gay actor Jim Nabors on Gomer Pyle and bisexual Glenn Corbett on  It's a Man's World.  Today Marlo Thomas writes a column on gay and women's history for The Huffington Post.

And they do not portray Don and Ann as in love. Indeed, they rarely even kiss. Instead, depictions of their evenings together often fade out with Don wisecracking and Ann laughing, like warm and caring friends enjoying each other’s company (in the third season, ABC helpfully added a kissing scene to the closing credits, to remind us that they were to be taken as a romantic couple).

Instead, they often treated the romantic reading of their relationship as a joke: in “The Good Skate” (September 1967), when Don presents Ann with a small jewelry box, she concludes that it contains an engagement ring and gapes in horror: she doesn’t want to get married. But it really contains a skate key.

Surely most lovers would consider such a joke rather cruel, but Ann laughs it off as mischievous fun.

ABC wanted the couple to marry in the last episode, but they refused. The series ended with Ann and Don trapped in an elevator en route to a Women’s Liberation meeting.

Two decades later, when Marlo Thomas and Ted Bessell discussed a reunion movie, they agreed that Ann and Don had remained close friends, but never married.

They wanted fans to be free to explore their own feelings, instead of believing that their destiny necessarily lay in a cookie-cutter, assembly-line heterosexual romance. She and

Bessell took pains, therefore, to ensure that their characters could be read in any of the many ways that women and men might approach each other as equals: perhaps as romantic partners, but perhaps as friends. In that last category it is easy to read Don as a gay man.


  1. But he always referred to her father as "My future father in law"

    1. As I recall (my memory from 50 years ago is a bit dim), Donald and Mr. Marie didn't get along well.

  2. Marlo Thomas confirmed that a reunion movie was in the works when Ted Bissell died. Side not: Donald's last nambe was originally Donald Blue Sky, and he would have been at least part Native-American.

    1. Elvish name noted.

      I can only imagine the difficulty with portraying tribal politics in that era.

  3. My first memories of Marlo Thomas are because of FREE TO BE… YOU AND ME, the 1970s "consciousness-raising" children's album for which we had to perform songs at a school assembly in the 2nd grade. One of them was "William's Doll," about a boy who wants a doll despite peer pressure from friends and relatives not to.

    I lost a lot of respect for her after I read that book her gay ex-majordomo wrote about her in the late 1980s. "Diva" doesn't even begin to describe the kind of things he wrote about her. And she was the worst singer on that album anyway. I lost even more respect for her after she appeared on the horrifically homophobic F(R)IENDS.


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